Incredible Facts
A bit of flirting at work, nice conversations, sudden attentions, what's behind it all? Is the man serious about you or is it all for short-term gain? Psychologist Ivan Fenin, candidate of biological sciences, believes that this is very easy to understand.
Observation: He starts acting like a little boy.
Conclusion: He doesn't care what I think of him.
In fact, this kind of male behavior suggests that he likes you. As a rule, when it comes to feelings, a man feels like a fish out of water. That is why adult men return to that period of life when feelings were "much closer" to them, during their childhood. Reflexively, they start behaving like little boys. Unsociable people will smile and giggle a lot, while intellectually developed men may start to say stupid and meaningless things. It's no secret that boys usually "fight" the girls they like - they try to find a flaw in the girl at every opportunity to hook her once again. They try to hide their true feelings, which is so typical for men. Adult men often follow the same type of behavior in relationships with adult women: a woman may like a man, but he feels that he should hide his feelings.
Observation: He doesn't remember anything I said to him or what he said to me.
Conclusion: He is not interested in me.
In fact, women should understand that, unlike them, men do not pay as much attention to words. As a rule, men forget what they say to their women in a fit of passion, while women prefer to analyze every word and every phrase they hear from their man.
Observation: He avoids being touched.
Conclusion: He tries to avoid me.
In fact, this may be true. However, if a man somehow expresses his feelings in a special way, then he is most likely afraid to take liberties, and therefore tries to avoid physical contact with a woman.
Observation: He forgot that he hurt me.
Conclusion: He does not love me.
Actually, this is the wrong conclusion. Usually. Men do their best not to remember their "crimes" because they make them vulnerable, which is contrary to human nature. On the contrary, women dwell on unpleasant memories because they are emotionally stronger than men. That is why women can take a long time to remind men of their mistake, even if they have already received an apology.
Observation: He doesn't like it when I say nice things about other men.
Conclusion: He is jealous, which means he loves.
In fact, this may not be applicable in all life situations. It all depends on what type of personality your man is. There are narcissistic men who are sure that only they can arouse a woman's interest, so they do not like any deviation from this. Besides, it might just be ambition.
Observation: He doesn't understand that I'm only flirting with him because I'm bored.
Conclusion: I have to explain everything to him, and everything will remain as it is.
In fact, don't even think about it. A woman can really flirt with a man for no particular reason. A man usually takes such signs of attention very seriously. A man always knows what he wants. He cares about the result, not the process. Most likely, a man will try to develop such relationships in the future. If a woman does not have serious feelings, her refusal will be a humiliation for a man. Men can't stand it when women hit on their vanity.
Observation: He knows how to take care of a woman, he meets all my requirements.
Conclusion: He is serious in his feelings for me.
Actually, this is not necessarily the case. Men usually behave this way if they want to achieve a certain goal. Genuine feelings usually cause spontaneous actions and decisions, while proper courtship is based on cold-blooded premeditation.
Observation: He does not like to talk to me about his health, he also does not share his problems.
Conclusion: He doesn't trust me.
In most cases, this opinion is wrong. A man cannot afford to look weak and unhappy in your eyes. In addition, most men do not know how to describe their feelings, no matter how strong they are. As the saying goes, men don't cry.
Observation: He is sometimes rude to me, although he does not allow himself anything like this with other people.
Conclusion: I drive him crazy.
In fact, this is a completely wrong assumption. His intemperance in expressions shows that you hurt him with something, that is, he is not indifferent to you. His rough language doesn't mean he's going to break up with you. On the contrary, it shows that he has stepped over the psychological barrier that always exists between strangers and unfamiliar people, he completely trusts you, but is only afraid to demonstrate it. Sigmund Freud believed that any kind of male aggression towards a woman is due to "sexual" reasons.
Observation: He does not take his eyes off me, even when we are in the company.
Conclusion: He loves me.
Actually, you are right. If he is staring at you, this is a serious challenge, most likely of an erotic nature. However, there are other, more expressive, purely biological signs of such interest: he rubs his neck while talking to you or holds on to his belt buckle.
Observations: He is too decisive in his actions.
Conclusion: He doesn't appreciate me.
In fact, men tend to quickly assess the situation. A short period of time is enough for him to understand that a woman likes him, so he is ready for decisive action. Women, on the other hand, often take longer to develop their feelings, because they analyze everything for a long time. Women don't jump to conclusions, they prefer to measure three times and then cut off. A wise man will never rush a woman by telling her point-blank: "I like you."
It's no secret that men are warriors and fighters. They are used to fighting for a place in life, winning the love of women, position on the career ladder and much more. That is why in their heads they always make up their personal rating, build a hierarchy of achievements and qualities, according to which not only the actions of others, but also their own are evaluated. For them, there is a standard of behavior of a real man, and to correspond to it is the highest goal. It is on this that his self-esteem and opinion of himself depend.
If a man succeeds, then in his own eyes his rating increases, and in others, according to the man, too. Friends must match his own position in the rankings. Not necessarily in the field of career achievements, it can be personal qualities or something else. But a man will not have comrades among those who are far behind him in priority areas, considering them losers.
For women, such an assessment does not apply or operates differently. A man evaluates a potential partner by completely different characteristics, so it makes no sense to try to impress him by demonstrating masculine qualities. A man can transfer such a woman to a male rating, respectively, she loses her position in his female top, after which she is perceived only as a business partner or a good friend.
If you have achieved much greater success in your career than a man, then in order for him to correctly evaluate you in his rating, let him know that his other qualities are important to you: courage, determination, masculinity.
Men don't understand women in the same way that women don't understand men.
It is for this reason that it is sometimes so difficult to convey some thought to your beloved, you just speak different languages. The habit of women to speak in hints affects, expressing most of the meaning in emotionally colored words, and not in logical maxims, as it would be more convenient for a man. Additional details, without which it is difficult for a woman to perceive the situation as a whole, only distract the attention of a man, he loses his meaning and focuses on trifles that he does not need. In the end, he generally ceases to understand what they are trying to explain to him.
Do not hint to him that you want more warmth and care. Just say that if he covers you with a blanket when you fell asleep and forgot to hide, then you will be pleased. If you want him to give you flowers, also tell him about it directly. Don't forget to specify which flowers you prefer! The main thing here is not to overdo it. It is enough to say once.
Men's memory is arranged quite differently.
It's time to talk about how men's memory works. Unlike women, who for the most part remember the mood and emotional coloring of events, men remember logical facts. That is why, if you are jealous or offended by him, then as soon as the emotions are gone, you quickly forget and forgive. A man fully forgives only when he logically substantiates for himself the reason why he should forgive. He remembers the essence of the event for a very long time, but the emotional interpretation may change over time.
So, if you were flirting with someone, and he was jealous of you, then he will remember what you were doing at that moment, what words you said and what look you gave the interlocutor. You can convince him that your words did not contain the emotions that he recognized, but trying to make him forget about this episode will not work.
Men think about relationships several times less than women.
The fair sex spend hours pondering what his words meant. They worry about how the man perceived them, discuss all the vicissitudes of the current romance with their friends and mother. But men don't do that. Relationships take up much less space in their thoughts.
If a man has, he enjoys them or experiences unpleasant emotions in this regard. He analyzes how this phenomenon in his life is good for him. This does not mean that he is on the development of relations, and he is not ready to do something to improve them. He just sees it all differently.
To better understand what topics men care about, pay attention to the headlines of glossy men's magazines. There will be no topics about the psychology of relationships, but questions about sex, cars, finances.
Men also want attention and love.
Women, focusing on how to understand what a man thinks, can forget about why they, in fact, spend time together. There is a universal language of communication available to both sexes: it is love. Take care of a man, treat your relationship with him as something important, give him warmth and attention. This is what will allow not only you to begin to better understand him, but also him - you.
We, women, always trust our intuition in relationships with men. It seems to us that this is how it will be best, that he may not like my fullness, he appreciates my willpower in me, it is I who can become a good wife for him ...
But what do men really think of us? Do they really like inaccessible girls, if they are not jealous, then they don’t love, or is it that everyone wants to get married and start a family?
1. We are not afraid of strong women. We just don't want them. The male subconscious always considers a strong opponent to be a man, and, as a rule, women excite us.
2. When meeting a beautiful girl, the pulse of any man doubles. This happens even with the inveterate playboy. But do not publicly make fun of this excitement!
3. If a man seems like an uninitiated mattress, maybe he just doesn't want you. Yes, yes, this happens too!
4. Beauty, from the point of view of men, is not at all equivalent to sexuality. Few of the generally recognized beauties did not ask the question in the suddenly empty bedroom: what did the husband find in the “gray mouse” from the nearest vocational school?
5. Not all of us consider female fullness a disadvantage. You can't even imagine how much not everyone!
6. In fact, we can do without physical intimacy for quite some time. Only, the less you do it, the less you want.
7. By and large, it is not very important to us how you dress. It seems that women do this mostly not for men, but for each other.
8. In fact, we are never too busy. At least to chat with the person we really like.
9. We believe in women. Including when women scold themselves too hard.
10. Most of us know how to do laundry. As well as ironing, dusting, and even cooking something acceptable for yourself. Therefore, women's help with the housework is not so necessary for us to endure quarrelsomeness and disrespect for this.
11. If a girl knows six languages and plays the piano, that's great. She can put it all on her resume and one of us will hire her. And in a life together, we value a cheerful disposition and love more.
12. We don't want to know exactly how you've been intimate with your ex. And jealousy has nothing to do with it. We just have a good imagination, and from now on there will be three of us in bed.
13. Inaccessibility provokes us. But only an idiot will kill time and effort on a project that is obviously losing.
14. We are not afraid of Mendelssohn's march. It’s just that we don’t always want to associate life with a specific woman. Indeed, between love and disgust there is still a wide field of sympathy, affection and temporary infatuation. Do you have it differently?
15. We are not jealous only of those whom we do not love. Although jealousy in itself is not yet a sign of love.
16. We do not notice your unshaven legs, bad breath, pimples and undyed hair roots. We just don't care if we're really into you.
17. We can meekly and for a long time fulfill all women's whims. But sometimes it's just curiosity, how far a lady can go in her selfishness.
18. We know that it is not good to pester subordinates with obscene proposals. Only you, dear ladies, don’t bother us either, okay? And then the girls in communication with the authorities are so assertive that it is quite difficult to resist.
Of all scientific topics, male biology is our favorite. That is why researchers do not get tired of supplying us with new information on the subject. And here's what they found out...
We are already used to the fact that men hug when they meet, but to also hold hands? Psychologists urge us not to worry. They believe it's another way to tell the world, "We're so courageous and confident that we're not afraid to show our feelings." But if we were Kristen Bell, we would limit the communication of our fiancé with Justin Long ...
After all , what happened
Incredibly, most men after sex dream of only one thing: to cuddle with you. However, there were other popular answers ...
- 10% feel brutal hunger
- 27% struggle with sleep
- 12% start looking for a TV remote
- 51% want to hug you
ACCESS CODE
As successful as men are in pretending to be carefree creatures, in reality they are subject to the strictest code of proper behavior approved by elders and comrades. The tough guy rules are:
- When photographed, a man should not try to turn his good side to the camera.
- If boxing gloves do not fit into the bag, then this is already a handbag, and only girls wear them!
- You can ask a friend if his salad is delicious, but you can’t beg to “try a little.”
- You don't have to lie that you don't watch porn, but it's okay to underestimate the amount of time spent on it.
- If you have gone too far with friends, it is indecent to collapse at night with your girlfriend.
- If you sit in the back seat of a car with two other passengers, try to get to the window, not to the center.
- You can not spend more than one third of what a girl gives on a haircut.
- Cash should be at hand, but it is not befitting for a man to pay with a handful of coins.
Doesn't fit on the head
Convincing a man to completely change his hairstyle is an almost unrealistic task. Therefore, it makes sense to use more stealthy tactics: for example, style his hair in a different way, using the advice of professionals.
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Retro Style: mix equal proportions of cream and hair gel, apply a little on the roots of his hair and comb them loosely up and to the side.
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Light mess: the "just out of bed" look is easy to achieve and looks great. It is enough to apply a little product to create the effect of curls on his damp hair, tousle a little and let dry.
Wax figures: to turn him into a handsome man, apply a little wax to the ends of his hair, highlighting individual strands. But on dirty hair, this styling looks terrible!
Storm in a glass
Alcohol prevents men from adequately assessing the situation and makes them suspect others of deliberate malicious actions. So, if your boyfriend is sober, he will not pay attention to a neighbor who pushed him on the shoulder, and after a couple of beers, the same action will lead to a scandal or even a fight. Take your loved one out of the bar on time!
IT'S TIME...
There are only 24 hours in a day, so if you want something from your loved one, it is important to wait for the perfect moment.
07:00: …FOR SEX
When men sleep, testosterone levels rise in the blood. And this means that, waking up, the boyfriend will want you more than ever. The main thing is not to be late for the office!
11:00 am: …FOR HOMEWORK
Closer to noon, men increase the level of cortisol and adrenaline, which are responsible for energy and strength. And if you have long needed to move a closet or hang a shelf, now is the time to ask for it.
2:00 pm: …TO TALK
Testosterone levels gradually decline and reach a minimum by the middle of the day. Grab him while he's in a good mood, and dump everything you were going to discuss.
20:00: …FOR ENTERTAINMENT
Now all the thoughts of your loved one are directed to doing something interesting before going to bed. If he's out of ideas, you can compete on the Wii...or go straight to bed (not to sleep).
like a stranger
Everyone should have their own space. You know it and try to keep your distance. But sometimes our efforts go unnoticed, and men still consider us sticky elements.
DO YOU TRY NOT TO... visit him when he has friends
AND HIM IS ANNOYED… if you call him when he has friends
AND WHY IS THAT? Constantly seeing your name on the display of the phone, the man feels that you are trying to control him.
DO YOU TRY NOT TO... tag him on romantic photos on facebook
AND HIM IS ANNOYED… when you “tweet” to your girlfriends: “My beloved and I are in the store!”
AND WHY IS THAT? Virtual reality is a place where everyone can express themselves. Do you want to merge your two personalities into one
DO YOU TRY NOT TO... leave your things in his closet
AND HIM IS ANNOYED… when you forget Sex in the City CDs in his DVD player
AND WHY IS THAT? Men are very jealous of their own territory. And the thought of you using his stuff terrifies him.
DO YOU TRY NOT TO... start talking about marriage
AND HIM IS ANNOYED… when you discuss with him a joint vacation
AND WHY IS THAT? Like many men, your boyfriend doesn't like to plan ahead. And here you are with your schedule!
dance floor
As Cosmo already wrote, a dancing man can and should attract interested female glances. But how to decipher his body movements?
TWIST-TURN
What it looks like: He actively rotates his hips and swings his arms. What does it mean: he is not shy about expressing sexuality, but he puts himself above everyone else. That is, they will not listen to you.
RUN ON THE PLACE
What it looks like: Same as it's called. What does it mean: he is not afraid to be funny. It's funny, but laughter is a defense mechanism and may indicate he's shy.
Understanding what others care about is no less important than finding out what you really want out of life. Having learned what the opposite sex is interested in, it is much easier to build relationships with him, find a common language and avoid conflicts. What men think about allows you to look into their souls and evaluate whether this is the person you would like to see next to you and whether you can build a long-term and, most importantly, happy relationship with him.
Understanding what men think
No matter how strange it may seem, but the stronger sex does not always think about sex. His head is filled with other thoughts, because he needs not only to have fun, but also to win recognition among his gender, and it is formed not only on the basis of the presence or absence of a spouse in their lives. Unlike women, for the stronger sex, their marital status does not affect their self-esteem in any way.
If he is single or changes girls like gloves, but at the same time he is financially successful, has real estate, a good car and a certain status in society, he is already considered a successful person. The presence of a beautiful girl in his life only complements his image. Therefore, before marrying, a real man seeks to secure his independence and the opportunity to provide for his future family. Unfortunately, not all representatives of the stronger sex are persistent in this matter. And they marry, guided by feelings, and not by cold calculation and responsibility, which is vital in this matter. This often happens because some have not yet had time to find themselves, to decide what success means to them.
Everyone has his own, but in the male world, nevertheless, his inalienable features are: social status, finances and strength. And this is due to the fact that from birth, boys are told that they are obliged to be earners and protectors. Therefore, they think most often about achieving this status and obtaining all the attributes corresponding to it. After all, he wants not only to earn the recognition of other men, society, but also the woman he loves.
If he fails to implement the program laid down in him, then he will not be able to become the one who suits the majority of the fair sex. And often it is the failure of the stronger sex that causes divorces. It makes no sense to blame them for not always being able to be those whom their loved ones would like to see in them. It's just that men are the same people and they are also characterized by laziness, fears, internal problems and anxieties. And even when it seems that he is a weakling and a loser in life, he still thinks about how to stop being like that. Only some cope with this task faster, not allowing emotions and desires to take over them, while others never find themselves, continuing to go with the flow, especially when a woman takes on his duties.
Until they find themselves, do not understand who they are, what they need to do, what amount of income is acceptable for them, how they need to live and what to do to earn recognition, they will not be able to become real men and pay due attention to their beloved. And here it is up to the fair sex to decide for themselves whether they are ready to wait for a meeting with someone who has fulfilled himself and grown up, or is it better to take a risk and connect life with someone who is still in search.
But, do not be upset, it is not necessary to look for the rich and successful, which, unfortunately, are not so many. A man considers himself accomplished even when his plans are only slowly being fulfilled. Having not yet received everything that he planned, he still knows that he is on the right track, because he has found himself. He no longer needs to think about one thing, completely immersed in it. Now it will not be difficult for him to look away from his achievements and think about how to conquer and satisfy his beloved.
Top 10 What Men Think About
- Of course, the thoughts of the stronger sex are also associated with the fair sex, only they change depending on the age of the man. Young people under 30 most appreciate beauties by their appearance, how attractive and relaxed they are, but their intelligence is no less important when it comes to finding a permanent girlfriend. But still, during this period, the heads of young men are busy with self-realization, so the number of girls and their beauty are directly associated with their status and success rate. In addition, at this age, it is equally important for them to satisfy physical needs, and not to take responsibility for the family. They are not yet ready for this, and therefore they do not consider their qualities in the opposite field in this vein. Now they have in the first place: achieving a position in society, recreation and entertainment. But of course, there are exceptions.
- At the age of 30-35, their views change. They already reach a certain level, see their future more clearly, and the desire to love and be loved, to have a family and be responsible for it is already coming to the fore. Now they are thinking about the fact that every man should plant a tree, build a house and raise a son in his life. It is very important for them how smart, loyal and caring a woman will be next to them. They need support and encouragement, their success must be shared by those who are dear to them.
- Having crossed the 40-year milestone, the representatives of the stronger sex think about the need for mutual understanding between him and his beloved. He needs a rear and confidence even more that at home he will rest from his labors and enjoy communication with an intelligent and confident woman who knows what she wants from life, takes care of herself and takes care of him.
- Men's thoughts about women are diverse, but among them one can single out something in common, what excites them and what they look for in them. They want their girlfriend to be independent, but not so much that he feels unnecessary and useless. The male ego is very sensitive. For many years he has been trying to prove to himself and others that he has become a provider and protector, has managed to achieve success and earn the recognition of others. Such a struggle does not pass without a trace for anyone, and one has to pay for it with too sensitive pride. And at the slightest threat to him, the stronger sex begins to act. They do not throw tantrums, although there are some, but when they feel hurt, and unable to cope with this, they decide to part with the one who did not take care of his ego.
- They want to see next to them the one with whom you can talk about everything, knowing that she will listen, understand and support, and will not dismiss, criticize and say that he is a loser, and she did not expect anything else.
- They do not like irritable, always dissatisfied and scandalous ladies. Even if they themselves are partly to blame for this, they will never admit it and blame the woman for everything. There's nothing you can do about it, it's worth either accepting or thinking about finding someone who won't make you feel that way.
- Not wanting to meet again, the representative of the stronger sex will never say this directly. He will try to soften his words by promising to call. This does not mean that he did not like the girl, this only indicates that he did not decide whether to continue communication or not.
- Men also think about the upcoming vacation, when they are happy to watch a sports program where their favorite team plays or an athlete performs, play a new computer game, and repair a car. At this moment, they do not care about a trip to the country, the continuation of repairs or shopping. Even if his beloved asks to do something, he sincerely does not understand why it needs to be done right now, and not on another day when he will be free.
- In general, rest for men with friends, communication, fishing and hiking in the forest, in a garage or a bar without their halves is very important. This allows them to distract themselves, gather their thoughts and recuperate after a hard week of work. They share fellowship with friends and love, and do not mix these areas of their lives.
- Men do not think about dates, they do not provide important information for them. There is no need to be offended by this, it is better to accept it.
As many people know: “An alien soul is dark” and you can’t recognize another person if you haven’t been with him in a variety of situations. In addition, few people are ready to open their souls and tell about themselves what sometimes they themselves have not yet understood. Therefore, the easiest way to lift the veil of secrecy that hides the worldview of a beloved man is the ability to hear him. He will always put his thoughts into words and it will not be difficult for an attentive interlocutor, to whom he is interesting and dear, to understand what he really thinks about.